I decided long ago, never to walk in anyone’s shadows
If I fail, if I succeed
At least I’ll live as I believe
No matter what they take from me
They can’t take away my dignity
-“The Greatest Love of All” by Whitney Houston
Let’s be quite frank. Humans are not the smartest species on earth. We think stupid things, we do stupid things and we say stupid things. As the saying goes- “To err is human”. But one of the dumbest things that we actually do in our lives is to depend on other people (okay! don’t take it in the case of parents though 😛). Well, humanity is so afraid of being alone because they don’t know how to trust themselves and depend on themselves. People are afraid to look in the mirror of life, they are afraid to accept the truth about themselves and whatever going on around him/her. All they do is taking the easy way out by depending on others for happiness, opportunities and a better life. What we don’t realize is that when we depend on others, we’re letting them borrow our life (Yeah! Hard to hear, but that’s the actual fact) and that’s why we first must be happy with ourselves and our lives, so that the other person only enriches us further, as a complement to our life not as a substitute for it.
By depending on others, not trusting yourself and hoping for a miracle to happen is not just the best option in your life. Truth is, it will make you end up miserable for the rest of your life. We often let insecurities and others’ judgments play a big role in our lives, but what we don’t realize is that those things don’t have anything to do with us. We don’t realize that at the end of the day, we can only depend on ourselves. If there is one thing you will learn, the hard way or the easy way, is that when all is said and done, the only person you can trust is yourself. You need to start getting to know yourself, start understanding who you really are and start trusting your own judgments/decisions because ultimately, that is what will shape your destiny.
Life is tough sometimes. There is so much mess you simply can’t control; sometimes you have no idea where to go or what to do and apparently, it gets complicated at the worst of times. We just get lost, dropping ourselves into a wide huge abyss. But you know what – We have no way of knowing exactly what lies in our future (stop believing the shitty astrological thing), but that’s what makes the journey even more exciting – and that’s why we have to keep trying. Sometimes we just need to be alone and let our tears out. We must push through all that hurt us, walk past all our memories that haunt us. Ultimately, WE have to let things GO because sometimes the things that hurt us are the things that make us strong.
Instead of losing your mind and thinking you are worthless, you need to take that time to understand the only person you have is – yourself. So why not understand how to deal with yourself, your problems and the situations around you, so that you can excel in life without relying on others.
At last, it all comes down to you knowing you. Take control of your own destiny and realize that you are the one that is going to get yourself where you want to go NOT anyone else. You and no one else can understand what you want out of your life. After all said and done, the only person that will meet you at the end of the tunnel is yourself. And that’s OK 🙂