“Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard ya hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done!” – Rocky Balboa
Recently watched Rocky Balboa (though not a fan of Rocky series), but anyway, this one quote (or Rocky Balboa’s speech to his son) from this movie just made me think twice about the course of my life. Well, I’m not going to break down the movie here (‘coz hey! you can watch it on your own) but will try to highlight certain ultimate bittersweet(mostly harsh) truths of life. Unfortunately, the more time you spend pretending that ultimate truths don’t exist, the more time you waste not being your authentic self and getting the most out of every precious second. So, let’s get started!
The First tough truth of life – The urge to be the best and believe that when you’re at isn’t good enough, is hard to cope with. As a teenager or even as an adult (now), I’ve experienced this often in this rapidly evolving & competitive world. Constant conversation with myself be like – “Do I want to win at everything for me, or because it’s what others want me to”. But recently, I’ve realized that the answer lies in truly turning away from the need to compete and respecting yourself for all you’ve done! Even if our achievements or accomplishments are very less than others, believing in our success will what makes us unique from others. And, it’s not always easy to believe in ourselves, but it’s always worth the try. When your happiness and satisfaction are derived from comparing yourself to others, you are no longer the master of your own life. The worst thing that can happen to you is allowing yourself to die inside while you’re still alive. Your self-worth must come from within.
When you feel good about something that you’ve done, don’t allow anyone’s opinions or accomplishments to take that away from you. But, I think, while it’s impossible to turn off your all reactions to what others think of you, you can always take those opinions with a grain of salt.😉 (Need more motivation? Jump onto the previous post – https://aleafoflife.wordpress.com/2017/05/28/believe-in-yourself/ )
The second bitter truth of life – You can’t be perfect, and holding yourself to unrealistic standards creates suffering. Plus nobody cares how difficult your life is. Everyone (except you) will look at your life as a finished product but not as a journey full of ups & downs. It is ONLY you – the author of your own life’s story. So, stop looking for people to give you sympathy and start creating the life story you want to read.
But then, another truth of life is – Life will never be Perfect and there is no such thing as a “right” time to do anything, be it, starting a fitness plan, moving into a new town or anything. And do you know what makes you wait for that “perfect time to act” – It’s the fear of change. Basically, it’s the fear to do any new different task. But as the saying goes – “Change is inevitable”. Only when you embrace it, you can find the good in it. So, take the risk. Step out of your comfort zone. Do the scary thing. And you’ll be so glad you did. All you just need to have an open mind and open arms to embrace the change and recognize the opportunities that change creates. But yes, don’t just blindly follow the thing rather believe in your intuitions. Your intuition is your inner GPS and when you are tapped into it, it will guide you along your path almost effortlessly. Sometimes we need to head into the storm to appreciate the light and have a renewed passion for the beauty of life. Trust me; being vulnerable will be more fulfilling than trying to lead a fake “perfect” life.
We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here now with the power to shape your day and your future. – Steve Maraboli
Last (but not the least) truth of life – You fail a LOT of times. Sometimes you win, sometimes you learn (don’t call it a failure). Failure is a learning opportunity and nothing more. It is not a big, bad thing that you should be frightened of. If successful people quit pursuing their goal after failing the first time they tried something new, then there would be approximately zero successful people ever. Now, you might be thinking, anyone can give a lecture on the importance of the failure but let me tell you that I, myself have failed over hundred times (even more than that). And yes, I’ve regrets too but ( my personal advice, which I’ve been practicing since long) – If you fail in something, distance from that event for a couple of days because agonizing over the problem will not make it go away rather will make it a lot worse. Read a good book, catch up with some friends, or go on a short trip. You will be able to look at the issue with a fresh perspective. After you have done that, ask yourself: “Why didn’t this work out and how can I do better next time?” The ultimate purpose of telling this is – Start believing in continuous improvements. Consistent hustle always wins. But never stop yourself from doing the thing. It’s always better an oops than a what if. When times are tough, remember that – In order to rise from its own ashes; a Phoenix first burn. And We do not need magic to transform our world. We carry all of the power we need inside ourselves already. (Okay! that’s kinda Harry Potter inspiration ✨)
It’s very normal that some days we really struggle trying to find happy moments. It’s like how much crap do we need to weed through before we find the happy moments. But we when we do, even really small things, it helps us feel better. When life is sweet, say thank you and celebrate, when life is bitter, say thank you and grow. 🤗
All in all, it’s not all sunshine☀ and rainbows🌈 but a good amount of it actually is.