Life Sans Technology

Today, we stand at a point where a human needs four things for survival – oxygen, food, shelter, and technology. Every morning, the first thing I do is check my phone. Although, I have a huge wall clock staring at me, saying ‘It’s 7 a.m., wake up now!’(well, don’t think I’m an early riser 😉). But, I still love my phone. It’s just…hmm… nicer.

Technology has made our lives far more convenient than we could ever imagine. It has simplified our life so much that we cannot think of a day without it. On one hand, technology enriches our lives but on the other hand, in pursuit of ease, we have become over-reliant on technology so much so that we cannot even imagine living without it. We have evolved beyond the times when people loved people and used inanimate things to make life easier. Now people love things and use other people to make their lives better. Technology has over the course of time, made our day to day activities easier, faster and comfortable. Technology is getting in the way.

So, basically, what is it like to live off the grid? Is it possible to entirely live without all the technology stuff that human has invented? Is it even possible for us to do now?

Well, to be frank, I cannot.  We would wake up in the morning without the alarm on our phone (Haha!! that’s kinda impossible though, for me, at least). Then, how will we go to school/college/office? By walking! (Are you kidding me?) . Because, Hey!  Cars/bikes/ public transports are also technology advancements. Aren’t they? Also, it would be around scorching 45 degrees outside (Ugh!…summers). No fans or No ACs. And then after a hectic day at work, you come home by walking. You realize you have a bucket full of clothes to wash and no washing machine (Damn!!!). No phone to order pizza. No TV to watch sports and movies. No iPod to listen to music. Last but not the least, no cell phone to text or call. I guess the doomsday would be better than this (Hah!). Life without technology would be a nightmare for sure. Living off the grid is finding an inner path. It is to be able to live off the perpetual need for tech-savviness. But you know what; the worst part about being off the grid is the reaction you get when you tell people you will be off your all social networking accounts. Those shocking or disgusted looks on their face as though you are an alien. As today, being on the grid is the normal thing and off grid is abnormal. Yep, that’s the reality. Technology has touched every aspect of the lives of the people and it is so intricately linked with their lives that in its absence, the world will descend into chaos and anxiety.

So, why is it so hard to unplug ourselves from technology?

I think it’s the fear of a disconnected life. It’s like FOMO – fear of missing out. Having a mind always curious for trivia (Well…that’s me!). Does a full inbox make you feel more important? Do multiple messages make you feel special? Well, answering “yes” to any of the above questions doesn’t make you less human. From time to time, we have all felt valuable because of the attention we get from email, calls, likes etc . And I’m not going to lie, when I see my blog likes & comments, my heart races a bit 😇 .  Also, if there was no technology, I couldn’t have written this post and you couldn’t be able to read the article. More than 50% cell phone users describe their device as “something they can’t imagine living without”.  Plus, being a tech freak, life will never be possible without my phone or laptop.

What I feel is life sans technology would just be different, not good, but not exactly bad too. It would just be different.  I agree that technology can be a major inhibitor to the humanity, but I also believe that boycotting technology isn’t the ultimate solution. Whether we like it or not, technology is here to stay and that taking an elimination approach is the wrong way to go. Instead, I believe we need to embrace what technology has to offer and find ways to balance our use of technology with our lives. All the good things that technology has done for humanity over the past years, has created a momentum that, even if it temporarily causes harm, will be embraced by the majority of the population. You cannot just throw your cell phone out of the window or toss your laptop in the trash because email and messages will still continue to be a part of your life.  But how important that part of your life is, up to you.

You can’t download time, you can’t upload love, and you can’t Google all the answers to certain questions of life (Questions in Life! Hmm…what’s that? 🤔 Well, I invite you to explore this topic further in a post I wrote a few months back –Questions in Life). You must actually live some of your life. Sometimes, it is to give time to yourself from the ever running and constantly spinning world. It is technology which has helped us to achieve our goals (to a maximum extent) and if that technology were to disappear then I would say so would we. Some of us may survive but we would not be actually living (in the sense we call living “now” where everything is only a couple of steps away).

 

As difficult as it is to imagine our life without technology, it is also impossible for human life to exist without it. Do you agree or not? Well, I’ve expressed my opinion; but you can tell me what you think in the comments below. 🙂

 

 

 

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Overthinking Everything?

There is nothing in this world that can trouble you as much as your own thoughts. The fact is – if you have 10 problems, 6 out of them will be completely made up scenarios in your head which have no logical reasoning. We all face problems. Whatever problems/issues (including life-changing, stressful or frivolous etc.) life presents us, whether small or big, we tend to think about them. Then we get lost in thoughts of all types of would have, should have and could haves.  For instance, “what should have done differently”, “what I could have” and so on.  The most common and destructive thing is that we think too much. It’s very easy to fall into the trap of overthinking minor things in life. We overthink every little problem until it becomes bigger and scarier than it actually is. We often want things so badly that we ruin it by overthinking before even it begins. Overthinking can only lead to – sleepless nights, confusion & more confusion, uncertainty, anxiety, stress and finally depression. At last, it will drive you nuts, your brain going wild, creating horrendous scenarios in which you’ll land up while taking certain decisions. Overthinking destroys the happiness that comes from just enjoying something at the moment. Thinking through is a great thing of course. But overthinking can result in becoming someone who stands still in life. You become the victim of your own mind.

Well, do you know one of the main reasons you overthink? Because – You have the time to.  Yeah! You read that right. Overthinking is one of the major human natural behaviors which holds you back from the life that you truly want to live.

I do overthink a lot and it often becomes a bottleneck in many decisions of my life. Thoughts like “I am not talented as so and so”, “What if I don’t make it”, “What if it happens again” just messes with our mind and steals our happiness. It takes a lot of effort & mettle to try to talk to yourself out of these thoughts. I am still learning how to cope up with this thing. And I certainly haven’t reached a level of success high enough to make my insecurities (mostly fear) disappear. Everyone is probably not the most talented person on this planet. I say this because I’m one of them. But I believe everyone certainly has room to grow.

So, dear readers, if you’re one of those kinds of people (who believe that they are not talented or just get trapped in the web of their thoughts), it’s time to get out of the inception of your thoughts and start applying the following habits in your life. I can’t assure you if they would help you every time but then it’s worth a try. As, personally, these simple habits helped me a lot to stop overthinking &  take the right decisions of my life.

1. Learn to become better at making decisions and to spring into action by setting deadlines in your daily life. No matter if it is a small or big decision. Just give some time limit to every thought, and stop it when the deadline finishes irrespective of where you are. This will save much of your time being wasted in overthinking unnecessary stuff.

2. Actions speak louder than words. Taking small steps forward and only focusing on getting one small step done at a time is another habit that works really well. And in this way, you don’t even have to delay things.

 

And yes! It’s not always necessary that your decisions would be 100% right. However much you apply your critical thinking, you might be wrong. So, being comfortable with being wrong and self-introspection can make you a more genuine person and brings a sense of true inner freedom.  

3. You can’t control everything. It’s not always possible to see every scenario in advance. Human makes mistakes and that’s fine. Plus you never know what something will be like until you experience it. Because however much you imagine what any change will be like, you will be surprised by what you discover when you actually engage in the activity. Only this way, you can move forward with a true understanding of what would be the best.

4. Start talking to yourself (we all do this anyway). Start telling yourself “I need to stop thinking now. No, I’m not going to think about this now”. Because we often take the negative worries and thoughts while going to bed and then it all starts buzzing around our mind (Ugh..that’s very frustrating 😖).

 

So, what to do now?

Well, close all your open tabs of your brain. Stop yourself from aimless thinking and divert yourself into doing more interesting things. But yeah! Be picky about what you distract yourself with, and make sure it enhances positive emotion and well-being.  OR Just tell yourself – “Dear mind, Please stop thinking so much! I need sleep 😛” OR Get a fresh new angle on the topic to think. You never know you could learn something new you’d never considered before.

5. Take help from your loved ones or from the people you can trust. It’s always better to seek social support than confining your decisions to your own biases & perspectives. Your social environment plays a big part. C’mon even research has also shown that stress and depression can be reduced by talking to others. Just don’t shut yourself down into the abyss of darkness (which we do most of the time). Just find ways to spend more of your time and attention with those people or sources who/which have a positive effect on you & your life. 😊

 

Well, now the last & most important thing. When you think all paths are blocked, just ask yourself a very simple question –

“What is the worst that could happen?”

When you find the solution of this question, you’d automatically stop overthinking (Yup! Kind of magic, it is).

Life is not a constant steady line. It has an eclectic mix of seasons of happiness, grief, sickness, death, joy and so on.  But most of the time those are not the things that hold us back. It is the socially accepted circumstantial beliefs which mask the real & deeper fears underneath. The thing is – don’t always worry about the perfection of your decisions. Just give your best shot and rest will be taken care by Him. Worrying doesn’t take away tomorrow’s troubles rather it takes away today’s peace. So, stop over-thinking. Whatever has to happen, will happen. Just let it go. Just let it naturally evolve. Maybe it’s not always about trying to fix something better. Maybe it’s about starting over and creating something better. Try to live in the present. Thinking *only* about the present moment rather than the past or any possible future can save much of your time and will also prevent you from overthinking.

At last, in the wisdom of Karen Salmansohn- “Worrying about how things might go wrong doesn’t help things to go right”, stop worrying about what can go wrong, and get excited about what can go right. ✌

 

 

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Welcome to Reality!

“Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard ya hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done!” – Rocky Balboa

Recently watched Rocky Balboa (though not a fan of Rocky series), but anyway, this one quote (or Rocky Balboa’s speech to his son) from this movie just made me think twice about the course of my life. Well, I’m not going to break down the movie here (‘coz hey! you can watch it on your own) but will try to highlight certain ultimate bittersweet(mostly harsh) truths of life. Unfortunately, the more time you spend pretending that ultimate truths don’t exist, the more time you waste not being your authentic self and getting the most out of every precious second. So, let’s get started!

The First tough truth of life The urge to be the best and believe that when you’re at isn’t good enough, is hard to cope with. As a teenager or even as an adult (now), I’ve experienced this often in this rapidly evolving & competitive world. Constant conversation with myself be like – “Do I want to win at everything for me, or because it’s what others want me to”. But recently, I’ve realized that the answer lies in truly turning away from the need to compete and respecting yourself for all you’ve done! Even if our achievements or accomplishments are very less than others, believing in our success will what makes us unique from others. And, it’s not always easy to believe in ourselves, but it’s always worth the try. When your happiness and satisfaction are derived from comparing yourself to others, you are no longer the master of your own life. The worst thing that can happen to you is allowing yourself to die inside while you’re still alive. Your self-worth must come from within.

When you feel good about something that you’ve done, don’t allow anyone’s opinions or accomplishments to take that away from you. But, I think, while it’s impossible to turn off your all reactions to what others think of you, you can always take those opinions with a grain of salt.😉 (Need more motivation? Jump onto the previous post – https://aleafoflife.wordpress.com/2017/05/28/believe-in-yourself/  ) 

 

The second bitter truth of life  – You can’t be perfect, and holding yourself to unrealistic standards creates suffering. Plus nobody cares how difficult your life is. Everyone (except you) will look at your life as a finished product but not as a journey full of ups & downs. It is ONLY you – the author of your own life’s story. So, stop looking for people to give you sympathy and start creating the life story you want to read.

But then, another truth of life is – Life will never be Perfect and there is no such thing as a “right” time to do anything, be it, starting a fitness plan, moving into a new town or anything. And do you know what makes you wait for that “perfect time to act” – It’s the fear of change. Basically, it’s the fear to do any new different task. But as the saying goes – “Change is inevitable”. Only when you embrace it, you can find the good in it. So, take the risk. Step out of your comfort zone. Do the scary thing. And you’ll be so glad you did. All you just need to have an open mind and open arms to embrace the change and recognize the opportunities that change creates. But yes, don’t just blindly follow the thing rather believe in your intuitions. Your intuition is your inner GPS and when you are tapped into it, it will guide you along your path almost effortlessly. Sometimes we need to head into the storm to appreciate the light and have a renewed passion for the beauty of life. Trust me; being vulnerable will be more fulfilling than trying to lead a fake “perfect” life.

 

We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here now with the power to shape your day and your future.Steve Maraboli

 

Last (but not the least) truth of life – You fail a LOT of times. Sometimes you win, sometimes you learn (don’t call it a failure). Failure is a learning opportunity and nothing more. It is not a big, bad thing that you should be frightened of. If successful people quit pursuing their goal after failing the first time they tried something new, then there would be approximately zero successful people ever. Now, you might be thinking, anyone can give a lecture on the importance of the failure but let me tell you that I, myself have failed over hundred times (even more than that). And yes, I’ve regrets too but ( my personal advice, which I’ve been practicing since long) – If you fail in something, distance from that event for a couple of days because agonizing over the problem will not make it go away rather will make it a lot worse. Read a good book, catch up with some friends, or go on a short trip. You will be able to look at the issue with a fresh perspective. After you have done that, ask yourself: “Why didn’t this work out and how can I do better next time?” The ultimate purpose of telling this is – Start believing in continuous improvements. Consistent hustle always wins. But never stop yourself from doing the thing. It’s always better an oops than a what if. When times are tough, remember that – In order to rise from its own ashes; a Phoenix first burn. And We do not need magic to transform our world. We carry all of the power we need inside ourselves already. (Okay! that’s kinda Harry Potter inspiration ✨)

It’s very normal that some days we really struggle trying to find happy moments. It’s like how much crap do we need to weed through before we find the happy moments. But we when we do, even really small things, it helps us feel better. When life is sweet, say thank you and celebrate, when life is bitter, say thank you and grow. 🤗

All in all, it’s not all sunshine☀ and rainbows🌈 but a good amount of it actually is.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Believe in Yourself

I decided long ago, never to walk in anyone’s shadows

If I fail, if I succeed

At least I’ll live as I believe

No matter what they take from me

They can’t take away my dignity

                        -“The Greatest Love of All” by Whitney Houston

Let’s be quite frank. Humans are not the smartest species on earth. We think stupid things, we do stupid things and we say stupid things. As the saying goes- “To err is human”. But one of the dumbest things that we actually do in our lives is to depend on other people (okay! don’t take it in the case of parents though 😛). Well, humanity is so afraid of being alone because they don’t know how to trust themselves and depend on themselves. People are afraid to look in the mirror of life, they are afraid to accept the truth about themselves and whatever going on around him/her. All they do is taking the easy way out by depending on others for happiness, opportunities and a better life. What we don’t realize is that when we depend on others, we’re letting them borrow our life (Yeah! Hard to hear, but that’s the actual fact) and that’s why we first must be happy with ourselves and our lives, so that the other person only enriches us further, as a complement to our life not as a substitute for it.

By depending on others, not trusting yourself and hoping for a miracle to happen is not just the best option in your life. Truth is, it will make you end up miserable for the rest of your life. We often let insecurities and others’ judgments play a big role in our lives, but what we don’t realize is that those things don’t have anything to do with us.  We don’t realize that at the end of the day, we can only depend on ourselves. If there is one thing you will learn, the hard way or the easy way, is that when all is said and done, the only person you can trust is yourselfYou need to start getting to know yourself, start understanding who you really are and start trusting your own judgments/decisions because ultimately, that is what will shape your destiny.

Life is tough sometimes. There is so much mess you simply can’t control; sometimes you have no idea where to go or what to do and apparently, it gets complicated at the worst of times. We just get lost, dropping ourselves into a wide huge abyss. But you know what – We have no way of knowing exactly what lies in our future (stop believing the shitty astrological thing), but that’s what makes the journey even more exciting – and that’s why we have to keep trying. Sometimes we just need to be alone and let our tears out. We must push through all that hurt us, walk past all our memories that haunt us. Ultimately, WE have to let things GO because sometimes the things that hurt us are the things that make us strong.

Instead of losing your mind and thinking you are worthless, you need to take that time to understand the only person you have is – yourself. So why not understand how to deal with yourself, your problems and the situations around you, so that you can excel in life without relying on others.

At last, it all comes down to you knowing you. Take control of your own destiny and realize that you are the one that is going to get yourself where you want to go NOT anyone else. You and no one else can understand what you want out of your life. After all said and done, the only person that will meet you at the end of the tunnel is yourself. And that’s OK 🙂

We all make choices, but in the end, our choices make us.

Life is a cup of coffee

Well, once again a metaphor of life but this time it is coffee love ❤️️! But guess what, this post won’t talk about any love for the coffee  (Aww..sad !!) rather will compare coffee with life (Oh! that’s interesting 😀). 

Life is a cup of coffee. Here, the coffee represents life and the cup represents all the not needed things including all the materialistic needs. Basically, the coffee is the actual content of the life with all its flavors and nuances. The cup doesn’t matter. But, coffee does! Rather than focusing on the cup and how it looks on the outside, we should be taking our time enjoying what’s on the inside, THE delicious coffee – a beautiful life. Cup is just a tool to hold and contain Life, and the type of cup we have does not define, nor change the quality of life we live. Likewise, no cup can make the coffee delicious. It’s all in how we make it. But, then it’s your choice of the cup and it’s your stress of your life. Too often,  we compare our cups to other people’s cups and feel critical, judgmental and even frustrated/angry. We believe life is the cup, not the coffee. But we have to pay attention to the substance of life independent of the container it is placed in. The point is you don’t always need the best, prettiest, or most expensive cups to enjoy coffee. Because the happiest people don’t have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything.

Such as life, the coffee can only be tasted in the present moment. The purpose of coffee is to drink it, to experience the taste to the utmost and to reach out eagerly for the richer experience just like the Life. But this purpose is often confused by busy watching out for what’s just ahead of us rather than taking the time to enjoy where we are.  We tend to forget to appreciate each moment in order to make plans for the future.  At last, the conclusion is – Savor the coffee, not the cups! Learn to Love, Learn to Cherish! Learn to live in the present moment. Life is now. Drink up! ☕

 

 

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Miracle of Silence

Nothing else lends more meaning and charm to a conversation than silence. Silence speaks when words can’t.

Silence is a blessing. How? Well, many unpleasant/embarrassing situations can be avoided by resorting to silence. Instead of using thoughtless words (which might cause repentance later), if we use discreet words, it let us save a lot of energy. Every word has consequences. Every silence, too.

In today’s world, silence is something of an anomaly. The irony is – it is what we seek, yet too often avoid, or just don’t take time out for.

Practicing silence gives us an opportunity for reconnection with our inner self and to create an inner peace within ourselves. And one shouldn’t lose his/her inner peace for anything, even if his/her whole world seems upset. At times, it is only necessary to rest one’s self in silence for a few minutes, in order to take off the pressure and become refreshed again.

Have you ever noticed that LISTEN and SILENT are spelled with the same letters ?

(OMG! yes )

It is only by remaining silent that one can become a good and cautious listener. (generally speaking) Since childhood, we’ve been always told that when we are listening to someone, we don’t speak at the same time as they do because that would just be silly. And a good listener always stands a better chance of expanding his/her knowledge than his/her garrulous counterpart. But, Hey! where will our ego go, then? 😛 That ego, which always stands in front of us making all the decisions based on what it will make us look & feel. Well , believe me… tuck that ego neatly and put it in a corner ! 😉 Then , observe yourself how you become silent in your mind , action and voices and how you truly listen to others.

Silence is something which grows within us, helping us to progress and develop in a very subtle way just like a seed which is hidden in the earth and it grows & develops into a flower. There is something soothing about silence, something that actually ministers to the souls of our self and filling our life with power and strength. As someone truly said – Silence can take us to the core of life.  It has its own voice.

Silence is a matchless way of keeping calm and composure.  A silent prayer to God is always a better and  eloquent way to converse with Him. Silence is a significant way of expressing positive as well as negative feelings. It can be effectively used to approve-disapprove, agree-disagree, praise-condemn, and much more.  No wonder, some of the world’s greatest creations can be attributed to silence. It often proves to be more competent than words. All in all, silence is an asset to one’s personality. It says a lot more than you think.

Sometimes it is better to let the silence do the talking. Quiet the mind and the soul will speak. 

 

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Reality of Happiness

Life is not a problem to be solved but a reality to be experienced. It is a strange blend of ups and downs, sorrow and happiness, success and failure, darkness and light, the good and the bad. It keeps on assessing a person’s fortitude by presenting unpredictable situations without a fore warning. Yeah! It’s strange.

Well, we all want to be happy all the time, but the reality turns out to be quite different as everyone has his/her share of favorable and unfavorable circumstances. And this too is a fact that different people or groups of people behave absolutely differently in diverse situations. For instance, an adverse financial predicament might mean a bleak future for one organization while another organization might consider the opportunity as a challenge. In this way, a hindrance can also make a person stronger and wiser. It is only while facing a difficult situation that a person comes to know of his/her real inner strengths. Just as a stone turns into a diamond only after undergoing a lot of cutting, carving and polishing, similarly emergence of varied unpredictable situations makes one stronger, more mature and determined.

Good times too are no lesser a challenge in the way that these evaluate a person’s way of handling happiness. Even otherwise, happiness would not be “so” valuable in absence of troubles. It is only defeat which makes victory so enviable.  There are times when, in spite of our best efforts, things seem to go out of our control and we feel helpless and trapped. But I think suggest following the famous quote – “God helps those who help themselves” is the best healing mantra of life at these types of situations. Just do your best and leave everything to Him. 🙂

It’s been more than a decade since the release of ‘Pursuit of Happyness’ and yet it is one such movie that sticks to my head as one of the most inspirational movies till date. The movie has a very simple message of ‘Never give up’. Being evicted from their home and facing financial difficulties, the father-son duo faced numerous struggles every day. Yet, the small bits of happiness they find, despite all adversities is what defines the actual reality of happiness.

Finding Happiness doesn’t always mean when the reality turns out to be better than your expectations but even when you work hard or try to solve the problem in a more efficient and different way. And even, then if you can’t find happiness, just stop everything, just stop engaging yourself in your thoughts & feelings, take a deep breath and start again! But don’t forget to stop yourself from looking for happiness in the same place you lost it. Surround yourself with positive people. Stop complaining. Expect less and try to have a positive outlook towards everything. Yes! Everything.  Happiness is not something we can actually have but it is something we can only pursue. All in all, Happiness is a living reality which never has a starting and/or an ending point. Either improve your reality or lower your expectations.

“The world is your oyster. It’s up to you to find the pearls”

 

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The Eternal Mystery

Life is full of ups and downs

What sails today may tomorrow drown

Life is full of challenges and failure

But success lies not in result; But procedure

Because if you work really hard,

Then some or the other day you will be rewarded.

And nothing will be marred.

What it matters is you have tried or not

Then your shortcomings will all be forgot.

So, do your very best

And leave to God the rest.

With new hopes and determination rise every day,

And trust me, in the end, you will be happy and gay!

Troubles come, Troubles go

People come, People go

But this life goes on until you die

So, never ever sigh,

Let things come and let things go,

But don’t let anything shake you,

Be happy, be strong!

Never give up, never lose hope

And ultimately your life will what you want.

 – Anwesha Ganguly   

 

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A girl

A girl- her life is a journey involving transformations

Mom and Dad get a little doll as a gift from God. This little Angel comes as a blessing from the Almighty. Mama-Papa plays with their doll & get the essence of their new found happiness. Angel brings music and rhythm into their lives. Angel giggles and Mama-Papa feel as if a little brook is churning itself as it moves by a hillock. Angel is almost like a gush of fresh, vibrant wind in Mama-Papa’s faces. Their whole world starts revolving around this little fairy.

Time flies by- Angel grows up. She begins to recognize the world around her. She begins to realize that like her, the Almighty has endowed this world with many other blessings. She is still made to walk on a rosy path. Mama-papa constantly guards her as Mama Bird keeps her egg wrapped to her heart. Angel is still ignorant of many facets of existence.  She passes her days in the cozy, warm nook of her parents’ lap.

Angel’s first encounter with the outer world, alone comes in the form of school– a place that will frame her perception, her feelings, her life, her future. Her little fingers do not want to leave the clutch of her mama’s fingers. She is scared- tears roll down her cheeks. But Angel has to sail through the stream of her tears to enter this new phase of life. New place, new environment, and new people- all this is intimidating. But Angel is brave. She accustoms herself with this new world. She makes friends- for the first time, believes someone other than her mama-papa. Clock winds itself; days pass. Angel now smartly flies between both worlds- that of her one and that of her school.

A new phase dawns in Angel’s life- adolescence. This phase brings with it change- physical and psychological. She begins to be aware of her body, her gender, her sexuality. Her perception of the outer world changes, as does that of the outer world of her. She becomes aware of a new element in her life- the male gaze- the gaze of the opposite gender. But Angel is still innocent at heart. She has not yet been able to emerge out of the cocoon of innocence and ignorance. But she has to adapt herself to her new form. Angel also comes to develop a new perception of her. She finds herself in sync with her new independent, rebellious self. She now comes under the grip of a new urge to take her own decisions and to challenge others’ decisions simultaneously. Decisions taken by her Mama-Papa now mostly seem unfair and imposed ones. She now finds herself exposed to evil influences. But Angel is not susceptible to these. Her Mama-papa’s upbringing has developed in her strength of character.

School gives way to High school; High school makes way for college. People come and go in Angel’s life but she remains that same little doll, the angelic fairy in Mama-Papa’s life. Mama misses those little-cushioned fingers which used to clutch around hers some years back. But Mama takes pride too in her best friend- her daughter. Her baby no longer has a little frame. She has grown up to become a beautiful, graceful, smart lady. Her girl is now a woman. Mama-Papa often spend moments of awe, wondering how so many years have passed by so quickly. At the same time, they are haunted by the thought of the day when their little Angel will step into a new life- when she will get married.

Now, it is time for Angel to feel blessed- she falls in love; she finds her special someone. She finds the person whom she can believe blindly. Angel finds a new shelter in her love now. Mama-Papa realize that Angel has finally grown up, though, for them, she will always remain the same, old little baby whose first utterance seemed to them to be the sweetest words they have heard, whose first steps seemed to render them with the same happiness that a mother bird gets her chick learns to fly.

Now, the time has arrived when Mama-Papa’s little, innocent, chubby Angel will enter a new life. Angel will now tread the steps in a life full of responsibilities. She now has to adopt her mother’s rolethe role of a daughter, a wife, a mother, a lover and above all, the role of a woman. Angel’s tiny fingers now leave those of her parents to hold of her love, her husband. Hard, it is very hard. This is perhaps the most difficult phase in Angel’s life. On one hand, she feels elated at the thought of being able to lead her life with her love but on the other hand, she finds herself immersed in tears at the thought of leaving her parents. She has to choose between the two- leaving one’s hand to hold another’s is inevitable. And Angel is not scared to embrace the inevitable. She is a brave girl and a responsible one too. Mama-Papa are sure that Angel will prove to be a ray of blessing in her new family as she was in their lives.

Hope, destiny holds the best in store for Angel. Hope, Angel gets what she truly deserves. But all said and done, Angel will always have her Mama-papa and her love beside her in her journey through life. They will always be her pillars of strength and support who will aid her cruise through this odyssey.    

Pic credits – http://www.thepinkangel.com/feng-shui

Appreciation

[Disclaimer – This post is dedicated to all the people who took time from their busy schedules to appreciate my previous post (first post on this blog – Questions in Life). Thank you for all your love & support! ]

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XXXX: Hey, Payel! Have you seriously written this? I didn’t know that your thoughts match so much with mine. I am so happy . Keep up your good work.

Me: Aww! Thank you so much, XXXX! Glad you like it: D  

 

The desire for approval is one of our basic social needs. Deep inside us, there is a basic urge for approval of what we are or what we do. We want to be appreciated & a word of appreciation can add a sparkle to our lives.  The art of praise & appreciation with a positive outlook towards life is sure to win us friends and keep us happy. Frankly speaking, words of praise can be magical as it can boost your spirit, passion, and purpose. The most important challenging thing is to make time each and every day to appreciate what and who is in your life.

Our discouraging words may be the weapons that destroy someone’s desire to continue trying, while on the other hand, our words of praise or encouragement can do wonders to people with lowly spirits. The heart-felt appreciation can lift someone up and help him/her make it through the day.  It’s just a text message saying, “Thanks for being you,” which takes probably less than a minute to shoot could make someone’s day. Trust me, you will feel more fulfilled because you have done something to make someone else’s life better. It doesn’t cost us anything and it doesn’t hurt anyone.  In today’s materialistic world, we tend to not realize the smallest things that we have until they are gone, and when they are around, it’s as though we do not appreciate them enough for their worth. Family, friendships, and relationships with others are important in every person’s life, and to look back and think, “I didn’t appreciate all the things they did for me,” equates to a lot of regrets. So, why wait? Appreciate them while you have them. When you express your approval or gratitude for something they have done, you will not only enhance their lives, but you will enrich yours as well. What I feel, sometimes we should ask ourselves if we are being the type of person spreading thankyous, cheers and good will or contributing to our own or other people’s doom & gloom.

I was once told that we can still appreciate life through all its ups & downs and twists & turns. Well, it’s kind of hard for me to believe then, but yeah it all started to seem true when I stopped complaining. I mean, just go 24 hours without complaining, not even once. And then watch how your life starts changing. The need is just to adopt an attitude of gratitude. As, without it, even success loses its shine & life its glow.

So, immerse yourself in gratitude each and every day and watch the miracles unfold around you as you do. All you need to do is take a look around you. Notice the beauty in others and all that surrounds you right where you are at this very moment. Try it.