Miracle of Silence

Nothing else lends more meaning and charm to a conversation than silence. Silence speaks when words can’t.

Silence is a blessing. How? Well, many unpleasant/embarrassing situations can be avoided by resorting to silence. Instead of using thoughtless words (which might cause repentance later), if we use discreet words, it let us save a lot of energy. Every word has consequences. Every silence, too.

In today’s world, silence is something of an anomaly. The irony is – it is what we seek, yet too often avoid, or just don’t take time out for.

Practicing silence gives us an opportunity for reconnection with our inner self and to create an inner peace within ourselves. And one shouldn’t lose his/her inner peace for anything, even if his/her whole world seems upset. At times, it is only necessary to rest one’s self in silence for a few minutes, in order to take off the pressure and become refreshed again.

Have you ever noticed that LISTEN and SILENT are spelled with the same letters ?

(OMG! yes )

It is only by remaining silent that one can become a good and cautious listener. (generally speaking) Since childhood, we’ve been always told that when we are listening to someone, we don’t speak at the same time as they do because that would just be silly. And a good listener always stands a better chance of expanding his/her knowledge than his/her garrulous counterpart. But, Hey! where will our ego go, then? 😛 That ego, which always stands in front of us making all the decisions based on what it will make us look & feel. Well , believe me… tuck that ego neatly and put it in a corner ! 😉 Then , observe yourself how you become silent in your mind , action and voices and how you truly listen to others.

Silence is something which grows within us, helping us to progress and develop in a very subtle way just like a seed which is hidden in the earth and it grows & develops into a flower. There is something soothing about silence, something that actually ministers to the souls of our self and filling our life with power and strength. As someone truly said – Silence can take us to the core of life.  It has its own voice.

Silence is a matchless way of keeping calm and composure.  A silent prayer to God is always a better and  eloquent way to converse with Him. Silence is a significant way of expressing positive as well as negative feelings. It can be effectively used to approve-disapprove, agree-disagree, praise-condemn, and much more.  No wonder, some of the world’s greatest creations can be attributed to silence. It often proves to be more competent than words. All in all, silence is an asset to one’s personality. It says a lot more than you think.

Sometimes it is better to let the silence do the talking. Quiet the mind and the soul will speak. 

 

Pic credits- https://what-buddha-said.net/drops/III/Dual_Energy.htm

 

 

 

 

 

 

Reality of Happiness

Life is not a problem to be solved but a reality to be experienced. It is a strange blend of ups and downs, sorrow and happiness, success and failure, darkness and light, the good and the bad. It keeps on assessing a person’s fortitude by presenting unpredictable situations without a fore warning. Yeah! It’s strange.

Well, we all want to be happy all the time, but the reality turns out to be quite different as everyone has his/her share of favorable and unfavorable circumstances. And this too is a fact that different people or groups of people behave absolutely differently in diverse situations. For instance, an adverse financial predicament might mean a bleak future for one organization while another organization might consider the opportunity as a challenge. In this way, a hindrance can also make a person stronger and wiser. It is only while facing a difficult situation that a person comes to know of his/her real inner strengths. Just as a stone turns into a diamond only after undergoing a lot of cutting, carving and polishing, similarly emergence of varied unpredictable situations makes one stronger, more mature and determined.

Good times too are no lesser a challenge in the way that these evaluate a person’s way of handling happiness. Even otherwise, happiness would not be “so” valuable in absence of troubles. It is only defeat which makes victory so enviable.  There are times when, in spite of our best efforts, things seem to go out of our control and we feel helpless and trapped. But I think suggest following the famous quote – “God helps those who help themselves” is the best healing mantra of life at these types of situations. Just do your best and leave everything to Him. 🙂

It’s been more than a decade since the release of ‘Pursuit of Happyness’ and yet it is one such movie that sticks to my head as one of the most inspirational movies till date. The movie has a very simple message of ‘Never give up’. Being evicted from their home and facing financial difficulties, the father-son duo faced numerous struggles every day. Yet, the small bits of happiness they find, despite all adversities is what defines the actual reality of happiness.

Finding Happiness doesn’t always mean when the reality turns out to be better than your expectations but even when you work hard or try to solve the problem in a more efficient and different way. And even, then if you can’t find happiness, just stop everything, just stop engaging yourself in your thoughts & feelings, take a deep breath and start again! But don’t forget to stop yourself from looking for happiness in the same place you lost it. Surround yourself with positive people. Stop complaining. Expect less and try to have a positive outlook towards everything. Yes! Everything.  Happiness is not something we can actually have but it is something we can only pursue. All in all, Happiness is a living reality which never has a starting and/or an ending point. Either improve your reality or lower your expectations.

“The world is your oyster. It’s up to you to find the pearls”

 

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The Eternal Mystery

Life is full of ups and downs

What sails today may tomorrow drown

Life is full of challenges and failure

But success lies not in result; But procedure

Because if you work really hard,

Then some or the other day you will be rewarded.

And nothing will be marred.

What it matters is you have tried or not

Then your shortcomings will all be forgot.

So, do your very best

And leave to God the rest.

With new hopes and determination rise every day,

And trust me, in the end, you will be happy and gay!

Troubles come, Troubles go

People come, People go

But this life goes on until you die

So, never ever sigh,

Let things come and let things go,

But don’t let anything shake you,

Be happy, be strong!

Never give up, never lose hope

And ultimately your life will what you want.

 – Anwesha Ganguly   

 

Pic credits http://www.twistpost.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/08/10-mom-take-time-for-yourself-707×398.jpg

 

 

A girl

A girl- her life is a journey involving transformations

Mom and Dad get a little doll as a gift from God. This little Angel comes as a blessing from the Almighty. Mama-Papa plays with their doll & get the essence of their new found happiness. Angel brings music and rhythm into their lives. Angel giggles and Mama-Papa feel as if a little brook is churning itself as it moves by a hillock. Angel is almost like a gush of fresh, vibrant wind in Mama-Papa’s faces. Their whole world starts revolving around this little fairy.

Time flies by- Angel grows up. She begins to recognize the world around her. She begins to realize that like her, the Almighty has endowed this world with many other blessings. She is still made to walk on a rosy path. Mama-papa constantly guards her as Mama Bird keeps her egg wrapped to her heart. Angel is still ignorant of many facets of existence.  She passes her days in the cozy, warm nook of her parents’ lap.

Angel’s first encounter with the outer world, alone comes in the form of school– a place that will frame her perception, her feelings, her life, her future. Her little fingers do not want to leave the clutch of her mama’s fingers. She is scared- tears roll down her cheeks. But Angel has to sail through the stream of her tears to enter this new phase of life. New place, new environment, and new people- all this is intimidating. But Angel is brave. She accustoms herself with this new world. She makes friends- for the first time, believes someone other than her mama-papa. Clock winds itself; days pass. Angel now smartly flies between both worlds- that of her one and that of her school.

A new phase dawns in Angel’s life- adolescence. This phase brings with it change- physical and psychological. She begins to be aware of her body, her gender, her sexuality. Her perception of the outer world changes, as does that of the outer world of her. She becomes aware of a new element in her life- the male gaze- the gaze of the opposite gender. But Angel is still innocent at heart. She has not yet been able to emerge out of the cocoon of innocence and ignorance. But she has to adapt herself to her new form. Angel also comes to develop a new perception of her. She finds herself in sync with her new independent, rebellious self. She now comes under the grip of a new urge to take her own decisions and to challenge others’ decisions simultaneously. Decisions taken by her Mama-Papa now mostly seem unfair and imposed ones. She now finds herself exposed to evil influences. But Angel is not susceptible to these. Her Mama-papa’s upbringing has developed in her strength of character.

School gives way to High school; High school makes way for college. People come and go in Angel’s life but she remains that same little doll, the angelic fairy in Mama-Papa’s life. Mama misses those little-cushioned fingers which used to clutch around hers some years back. But Mama takes pride too in her best friend- her daughter. Her baby no longer has a little frame. She has grown up to become a beautiful, graceful, smart lady. Her girl is now a woman. Mama-Papa often spend moments of awe, wondering how so many years have passed by so quickly. At the same time, they are haunted by the thought of the day when their little Angel will step into a new life- when she will get married.

Now, it is time for Angel to feel blessed- she falls in love; she finds her special someone. She finds the person whom she can believe blindly. Angel finds a new shelter in her love now. Mama-Papa realize that Angel has finally grown up, though, for them, she will always remain the same, old little baby whose first utterance seemed to them to be the sweetest words they have heard, whose first steps seemed to render them with the same happiness that a mother bird gets her chick learns to fly.

Now, the time has arrived when Mama-Papa’s little, innocent, chubby Angel will enter a new life. Angel will now tread the steps in a life full of responsibilities. She now has to adopt her mother’s rolethe role of a daughter, a wife, a mother, a lover and above all, the role of a woman. Angel’s tiny fingers now leave those of her parents to hold of her love, her husband. Hard, it is very hard. This is perhaps the most difficult phase in Angel’s life. On one hand, she feels elated at the thought of being able to lead her life with her love but on the other hand, she finds herself immersed in tears at the thought of leaving her parents. She has to choose between the two- leaving one’s hand to hold another’s is inevitable. And Angel is not scared to embrace the inevitable. She is a brave girl and a responsible one too. Mama-Papa are sure that Angel will prove to be a ray of blessing in her new family as she was in their lives.

Hope, destiny holds the best in store for Angel. Hope, Angel gets what she truly deserves. But all said and done, Angel will always have her Mama-papa and her love beside her in her journey through life. They will always be her pillars of strength and support who will aid her cruise through this odyssey.    

Pic credits – http://www.thepinkangel.com/feng-shui

Appreciation

[Disclaimer – This post is dedicated to all the people who took time from their busy schedules to appreciate my previous post (first post on this blog – Questions in Life). Thank you for all your love & support! ]

(On call)

XXXX: Hey, Payel! Have you seriously written this? I didn’t know that your thoughts match so much with mine. I am so happy . Keep up your good work.

Me: Aww! Thank you so much, XXXX! Glad you like it: D  

 

The desire for approval is one of our basic social needs. Deep inside us, there is a basic urge for approval of what we are or what we do. We want to be appreciated & a word of appreciation can add a sparkle to our lives.  The art of praise & appreciation with a positive outlook towards life is sure to win us friends and keep us happy. Frankly speaking, words of praise can be magical as it can boost your spirit, passion, and purpose. The most important challenging thing is to make time each and every day to appreciate what and who is in your life.

Our discouraging words may be the weapons that destroy someone’s desire to continue trying, while on the other hand, our words of praise or encouragement can do wonders to people with lowly spirits. The heart-felt appreciation can lift someone up and help him/her make it through the day.  It’s just a text message saying, “Thanks for being you,” which takes probably less than a minute to shoot could make someone’s day. Trust me, you will feel more fulfilled because you have done something to make someone else’s life better. It doesn’t cost us anything and it doesn’t hurt anyone.  In today’s materialistic world, we tend to not realize the smallest things that we have until they are gone, and when they are around, it’s as though we do not appreciate them enough for their worth. Family, friendships, and relationships with others are important in every person’s life, and to look back and think, “I didn’t appreciate all the things they did for me,” equates to a lot of regrets. So, why wait? Appreciate them while you have them. When you express your approval or gratitude for something they have done, you will not only enhance their lives, but you will enrich yours as well. What I feel, sometimes we should ask ourselves if we are being the type of person spreading thankyous, cheers and good will or contributing to our own or other people’s doom & gloom.

I was once told that we can still appreciate life through all its ups & downs and twists & turns. Well, it’s kind of hard for me to believe then, but yeah it all started to seem true when I stopped complaining. I mean, just go 24 hours without complaining, not even once. And then watch how your life starts changing. The need is just to adopt an attitude of gratitude. As, without it, even success loses its shine & life its glow.

So, immerse yourself in gratitude each and every day and watch the miracles unfold around you as you do. All you need to do is take a look around you. Notice the beauty in others and all that surrounds you right where you are at this very moment. Try it. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Questions in Life

 

As I turned 21 this year and think of my life so far and what’s to come, I realize how many “aha” moments I’ve had from someone asking me simple yet powerful questions like –

What are we here for?

Where have we come from?

Where are we going after this?

How long are we to continue doing this?

Yeah! I mean someone asks me a seemingly trivial question and bam! I’ve NO answers or I don’t know how to answer. But, what I believe is the beauty of these questions is that there are no right or wrong answers. They are just meant to get your wheels turning, and maybe help you see the decisions you’ve been making, and the ones you’d like to make from now on. For instance, the most frequent question I’ve always in my mind – Should you be focused on today or tomorrow? “

This might seem to be all silly type of questions but once we don’t go by their literal meaning, we can say that they are the baby levels of the spiritual quest. It may be true that if we can answer these simple yet important questions, we can probably find the actual meaning of life. But yes! to prove this big claim, we need to take the first jump of this search, that is to ask ourselves – “Why are we here?”

What I’ve realized that the kind of questions we ask determine the kind of life we lead. For example, questions like Why am I so unlucky?” or “Why am I always in such a situation?” are so backward looking that the answers you get with them are naturally disempowering. On the other side, questions like “What am I grateful for?”, “What can I learn from this experience?” or “How can I do it differently?” are so empowering that they provoke you and get you thinking and putting you on the path to a better life.

At last but not least, life isn’t always about figuring out what to do.  The real challenge is simply doing the things we know we should be doing because we might have been here hundreds or thousands of times before, doing the same thing time & again but “Why do it once again?” is THE most crucial question of all the time!

Ask yourself some of these questions when you feel stuck or when you want to think of yourself. What comes up just might surprise you! 🙂